Raising Children: Concepts I’d Like to Instill

Raising Children: Seven Concepts I’d Like to Instill

I’ve always had ideas of what I would like to teach my children once they entered the world. “Golf is the greatest sport of all time” or “Math is so easy” are two examples, but now that my son is finally here I’ve found myself thinking about things I want him to learn that hold so much more relevance and importance to life. I want him and his future siblings to be the very best humans, friends, and all around people that they can be. I’ve learned many lessons throughout my life, but I think the next seven concepts will help in raising my children, and I also think these ideas will help my children traverse this crazy world all that much easier.

Relaxing Without Technology

To me, this is the most important thing that I want to instill while my children are young. I don’t want them to be reliant on a phone, tablet, or computer to relax or settle themselves down. I’m sure there will be a time and a place when my significant other and I will use technology to soothe our children, but I would like those times and places to be very few and far between. There are so many other things that can be used to calm that fussing, and many of those also offer tangible benefits to development and brain activity. I’m sure there are countless individuals right now saying something along the lines of, “But Dusty, introducing children to technology at a young age helps them better understand it as they grow.” I can see your point with that statement, but I also think you can teach your children about technology without allowing them to glue their faces to a screen in order to stay calm.

I want my children to be as unplugged as possible. In fact, I want this to carry over into their adult lives as well. I’ll admit, I’m no saint when it comes to screen time. I’m a huge gamer so if I have any free time away from work you will more than likely find me plopped right in front of my TV grinding away at whatever game I’m currently playing. Clearly, I’m also a blogger (and I happen to be working on a novel as well), so you can see how I have a requirement to use technology there as well. But the thing is, I can distinguish when I need to set my phone or controller down to spend time with those around me. Nothing bothers me more than when I’m surrounded by friends or family and every single person is on their phone. I hope that by raising children to soothe themselves without technology they will also learn the social cues that will help them avoid becoming a nomophobe later in life.

Reading is Awesome

I don’t think there will be any problem instilling this within my children. I love to read, especially if it is anything within the realm of fantasy. Granted, working full time, blogging on the side, and writing a book doesn’t leave much time for me to read much outside of my own work, but that doesn’t mean I love it any less. My significant other is an English and Reading teacher as well, so she constantly has her nose in books too. On top of that, I am a firm believer that reading grows one’s creativity exponentially, and I can say that I wouldn’t be as creative as I am today without the countless books I’ve read throughout my life. Ideally, I’d like to tie this directly into tech-less soothing and have my children remain relaxed via reading. It’s been proven time and time again that reading helps so many people deal with high levels of stress or anxiety, so why can’t it be used to calm down or relax a child?

Education Over Everything

This also ties into the previous concept since reading is such an integral aspect of education. When I was growing up, school always came first. The second I was home I sat at my desk and pumped out all of my homework before doing anything else. This not only taught me valuable time management skills that I still use to this day, but it also taught me how to prioritize the things that are most important, and to plan for things that are on the horizon. A good education can also bring a child much needed scholarship and grant money if they’re planning on going to college. Some people may argue that education may be important but athletic scholarships are more important. While I don’t completely disagree with that, what happens when your star athlete child is injured and can no longer play? They need that education as a fail-safe for any and all unfortunate occurrences, which is why I will try to instill in my children that their education stands well above anything else.

Be Outside During Daylight Hours

This was something that I wish I would’ve adhered to a little more when I was younger. As I mentioned previously, I am a huge gamer and have been ever since my dad bought me my first Game Boy back in ’98. The second I finished my homework I dove into video games until I went to bed. On Saturday mornings you would find me up at the crack of dawn watching cartoons, and I wouldn’t move from that couch until I was told to. Both of these things led to me being a pretty obese child, which is something I think could have easily been avoided if I had been an outside more.

Other than the clear increase in exercise or activity, there are many other additional benefits that we receive from being outside. The vitamin D our bodies absorb from the sun is a key ingredient in developing strong bones and immune systems. Their creativity and ingenuity levels have a strong chance of developing as they try to keep themselves entertained with new games and activities. It can also teach children important social skills that will help them socialize with other children their age.

Practice Makes Perfect

I know, what a cliché, but it is 100% true. I learned this very early on in life from my father, who believe it or not, bought me a multiplication book that changed how I did math for the rest of my life. That may sound extremely lame, but I am dead serious when I say practice does actually make perfect. I was probably six or seven when he bought me that book and I tore through it once he showed me how to do a few problems. From there I started doing math in my head whenever I had the chance. I was that weird child who would calculate tax out at dinner or figure out the cash back at the grocery store before the teller input the amounts into the computer. I still to this day am the friend in my friend group who everyone looks to when they need any sort of math done.

Now, this obviously doesn’t only apply to math. It can apply to sports, reading, playing an instrument, or even something as simple as riding a bike, and that is what I want my children to know. They will fail at some point, but getting back up, dusting themselves off, and trying again will lead to better results. Along with all of this my children will hopefully realize that all of that practice also instills other key life skills: drive, dedication, a solid work ethic, and how to have fun just to name a few.

You Can be Anything You Want To Be

This is something that most children probably hear from their parents at some point in their lives, but I don’t think many kids realize how true that statement actually is. I want my children to know that they can be anything they want to be, but that sometimes, you won’t actually know what that thing is until later in life. For example, when I was growing up I told everyone I could that I wanted to be an architect. Funny thing is, I got to high school and my architect teacher told me that I would be a better engineer because I was good with math and science. So I went to college to be an engineer… and hated it so much that by my second semester I switched to economics. From there, I changed my mind three more times before settling back into finance which is what I do today. But I didn’t realize that I wanted to be a writer until I was two years removed from college! It’s hard to find something in this world that you are truly passionate about and can enjoy doing for work, so I will urge my children as they age to cast their net wide in the hopes of finding what they truly want to be.

Be Confident in Yourself

As an obese child, confidence was something I severely lacked. As I aged, I gained little chunks of confidence here and there, but nothing ever really helped. However, by my junior year of college I finally became comfortable and confident with myself, and since then I’ve felt like a completely different person. I was no longer afraid to be in large groups of people. I no longer afraid of getting called on during class. That confidence even carried into my career and has helped me become a better analyst. I no longer fear what could happen if I make a wrong assumption with my work. I’m not afraid to ask a tough question if I know the answer will better me or the company. Like I said earlier, sometimes you have to fail in order to succeed, and as someone with little to no confidence you may be afraid to fail. That fear of wondering what may happen if you fail can eat away at you, and that is why I want to be sure my children are confident with everything they do at a young age. I don’t want them to worry about standing in front of people to read, perform, et cetera.


While all the above are important, the one concept we want our children to adhere to day in and day out is to be kind. That goes above simply “treating others the way you want to be treated”. We want our children to know what it means to be a good friend or a good partner. This means our children will be willing to be helpers as well as listeners, they will stand up for what is right even if that means they will stand alone, and they will not pass any judgements on others. Kindness is something this world needs more of and the best place to start in creating more is raising our children with it.


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My First Year of Blogging

What I’ve Learned Through My First Year of Blogging

It’s hard to believe that its already been a year since I started blogging. Originally, I started out more or less blogging to promote the book I am working on. However, that quickly changed when I realized how much I loved informing everyone and then getting feedback on what I was doing. I did have a somewhat rough beginning with another website that I will not name, but I’m thankful for that experience as it taught me many valuable lessons as a newbie blogger. Then, in June of last year, I officially made the switch to WordPress and haven’t looked back. I’ve uploaded over 70 original posts and re-SEO’d everything from my prior site for my new site. I’ve had weeks were I had hundreds of views and weeks were I had 3 views. There’s been countless late nights and insane amounts of research on topics I never thought I’d know, but in the end, I wouldn’t change a single piece of my blogging journey. Along the way I’ve learned quite a bit, and it only seemed right to share what blogging has taught me with anyone who may be playing with the idea of becoming a blogger.

Always Do Your Research

As I mentioned above, I had some rough goings with the site who must not be named early on in my blogging career. When I decided I wanted to start writing my book, I figured blogging would be a great way to easily brand myself and the book, as well as post periodic update son said book. However, I kind of just dove into the first site I found and didn’t do much research outside of cost. Little did I know, the site I chose had almost no customization aspects and it was very hard to update anything aesthetically outside of blog posts. This, along with a poor name choice for my first site, led me to very quickly regret the decision I made for which site to use. I took the next week to really research a ton of different blog-hosting sites, and eventually landed on WordPress. If only I had done all that research from the beginning.

It Will Take Time to Find Your Niche

If you’re familiar with my site, then you should 1,000% know this as true facts. My blog is labeled as a “Lifestyle Blog”, but in all honesty, that’s because “Lifestyle” is the only term broad enough to capture everything I blog about. There’s been a few instances where I thought I found my niche, but things didn’t end up working out in the long run. The first was sports writing, and after that came movie reviewing. I landed Internships/jobs with both, but as time went on I decided I still wasn’t ready to settle into just one content area. It’s very similar to our careers: sometimes it takes time to truly know what you want to do.

Coding is More Useful Than You Think While Blogging

Blogging Coding

Now, I’m no expert coder (hell, I’m probably not even regarded as a novice coder), but the bit of coding I have picked up over the last year has gone an extremely long way. If you peruse my site, you’ll notice a lot of matching colors and texts that vary depending on what page you land on. Almost all of that variation is due to CSS coding. CSS stands for Cascading Style Sheets and it allows you to store style information (such as colors, fonts, and layouts) separate form your HTML code. Without this coding, my site would look identical to the theme that I, and millions of others, have chosen from the basic WordPress theme bank. CSS does a lot more than just adjust colors though. I’ve used it to hide areas of my site I don’t want to be visible. It’s very useful for enlarging images and boxes that an image may be sitting in. You can even use it to add in things such as sticky menu’s, return to top buttons, and much more. Of course, WordPress also has an amazing team of CSS coders that are almost always readily available to assist with any questions too, which is a total lifesaver!

SEO is Critical to Driving Traffic

As I mentioned in my intro, when I switched over to WordPress I had to go back and completely re-SEO all of my old sites articles. When I first started blogging, I had no clue what SEO was (if you don’t, check these articles out). I was just coming up with super crafty titles for my articles that didn’t have any keywords that matched my writing and throwing headers into my content willy-nilly when I saw fit. That wasn’t good for traffic though because my articles weren’t being pulled up in searches. I had no relevant keywords, links, or content in all honesty. I was lucky if I had 5 clicks a week! But once I figured out what SEO was and how I could effectively implement it into my blog, those numbers began growing exponentially. I’m still not pulling in massive numbers weekly, but what I pull now makes my old site look like it was built (and written) by a child.

Quality over Quantity

When I first began blogging, I had a post work routine to write “x” amount of words for my blog and “x” amounts of words for my book before I went to bed later that night. At first, this was the exact thing I needed to get the site up and running with some quality content. However, over time, this became unfeasible… yet I was still doing it anyways. This led to what I thought was a great idea at the time, a short weekly review of whatever I was stanning in any particular week. However, writing only 100-200 words for a post is not great for a site and leads to sub par work – not to mention it kills any shot of solid SEO. This idea eventually led to all of my articles becoming smaller, and I quickly realized my desire to push out “x” amount of posts per week was resulting in a decline in my quality as well as my site’s traffic. Since then, I’ve really pushed myself away from word/post counts and more towards posting articles once I feel like they’re ready. This leads to weeks without posts sometimes, which probably isn’t great, but I’d rather have a smaller inventory of great products than a massive inventory of crappy products.

Social Media Can Drive Massive Traffic

This is probably pretty self-explanatory. If you have another platform where you can promote your blog, do it. Social media gets more eyes and clicks to your blog, especially in times like these. Almost everyone is stuck at home and glued to their phones due to COVID-19, and a few well-placed grams, tweets, or even Facebook posts can go a long way. Plus, all three of these have options for you to promote your work, which can get your blog content out to thousands of people who may not typically be looking for what you may be offering. I started with only a Facebook page a year ago, but now I have an IG for each section of my site (due to the fact that a good chunk of my site is also relating to my novel series), a twitter, and two Facebook pages that relate to separate areas of my site. I draw in a good chunk of my traffic from these three mediums, especially as my following grows day by day.

You Won’t Always Meet Your Blogging Goals

This was a tough pill for me to swallow right around the time when I started not meeting daily word and weekly post goals. I wanted so badly to have a consistent routine that allowed me to pump as much content out to my followers as possible, but life doesn’t always let you do what you’d like. Some layoffs at work led to me working longer hours and having less time to write, then I moved into a new house and spent weeks getting everything situated and livable. And on top of all that, my significant other and I found out we were having a baby boy! This mixture of things led to an extreme lack of content from me between mid September to Late December. The key here though is to just remember you can’t always do it all. You need to stay positive and take whatever you can get sometimes. Instead of having a word limit goal, have an idea or concept goal. Then, once your hiatus ends, you will have a backlog of ideas and started projects that you can dive into to reach whatever new goals you may want to set!

Sometimes You Just Need a Break

This somewhat ties into the above lesson, but since I’ve started blogging I’ve released you sometimes just need a break. I’ve taken two two-week breaks over the last six months. The first was in November. Among the things mentioned previously, I was also in the process of rebuilding my blog. It was near impossible to teach myself CSS, write my book, and blog. So I nixed blogging for a bit to focus on the site, and then came back with all cylinders firing in December. The second break was for the birth of my son. To me, the two weeks I was allowed to take off from work felt like they needed to be spent solely on my son. I did a little idea jotting here and there, but my handsome boy (and the lack of sleep that he brought with him) took up most of my time in late February. A lot of people may be within the mindset that you constantly have to be grinding, but for others, that can lead down a spiraling staircase of lost content quality. So remember to do what’s best for you in the long run, you will have plenty of time to figure out what’s best for your blog after.


I honestly can say that a year ago I knew I would have grown and learned quite a bit, but I never thought I would be where I am today. Within that incredibly short 365 day span I’ve closed in on 100 blog posts, 1,500 views, and over 700 unique visitors. I had no idea that I, as a full time worker and parent, would be able to reach and influence 700 people! I hope that the things I have learned can help you on your journey, and I hope we both grow our blogs and brands exponentially over the coming years. Be sure to check out the rest of my content at DustyPosts, and let me know what you’ve learned early in your blogging lives as well!

My Top Five Books of All Time

My Top Five Books of All Time

While at work the other day I was asked to answer a boatload of questions that described my hobbies for the monthly “About This Employee” newsletter. One of the first things that came to mind was how much I love to read, even if I don’t always have as much time to as I’d like. This, of course, sent me down memory lane and had me reminiscing on all the incredible books I’ve read over the years. This list is nowhere near comprehensive, and there are so many books that truly pain me to leave off, but the top five books below are the ones that I feel stand out the most in my 20+ years of reading.

#5 – A Land Remembered by Patrick D. Smith

Rounding out the bottom of my list is A Land Remembered. This was a book I would’ve probably never read if it hadn’t been a mandatory read when I was in high school. As I made my deeper and deeper into the book, it slowly snuck its way up into my list of favorite books. It’s also a pretty neat little history lesson of sorts for me as the book takes place within the state of Florida, which is where I was born and still live to this day. One of the other things I absolutely loved about this book was its split into three substantially different perspectives. Each detailed a different generation of the MacIveys, and it was a very fun way to tell the story of a family who was trying to make a name for themselves during the 19th and 20th centuries.

#4 – The Redwall Series by Brian Jacques

For those of you who do know this series, I’m sure you will recall that there are about 30 books within or related to the series. I didn’t read all of them, but my elementary years were littered with most of these stories. Redwall, Salamandastron, Martin the Warrior, and Marlfox were just a few of Brian Jacques mesmerizing novels. Each had their similarities, but were also ridiculously unique in their own way. They all completely submerged me into a realm I had never even dreamt of. The fantasy novels all enlist some form of anthropomorphic animal that is undertaking a massive task to save the people of Redwall and its surrounding areas. It is one of few book series of its kind and it is a must-read for anyone who enjoys fantasy based novels. The books were aimed at children, specifically older children, so be weary of this is you decide to indulge yourself within Brain Jacques realm!

#3 – The Hobbit by J. R. R. Tolkien

It’s very hard for me to rank this book at #3, but unfortunately it has to be done. Lord of the Rings itself was incredible, but The Hobbit is one of those books that is basically absolute perfection. I can still remember when I picked this book up in fifth grade and didn’t set it down until I was finished with it. I was glued to that book for over a week and enjoyed every single second of it. Since then, I’ve probably only re-read this book twice. But knowing that I have a child on the way I am already anticipating reading it to them countless times once they can understand the story behind this incredible book.

#2 – The Harry Potter Series by J. K. Rowling

Now, I won’t waste too much of your time here since I just recently posted a complete breakdown and ranking of the Harry Potter series, but it goes without saying that these books were essentially my entire childhood. From the second I opened my first HP book until my freshman year when The Deathly Hallows was released I always dreamt of the wizarding world. J.K. Rowling’s series was atop my list of favorites for years, but just recently it was toppled by ASOIAF. These books have the most read throughs for me and I know quite a disgusting amount about these books. I actually corrected the librarians answer key when I was in fourth grade too. Super nerd alert haha. Harry Potter and his crew taught me so many things over the years, and if you haven’t read this series yet you’re doing an immense disservice to yourself!

#1 – The A Song of Ice and Fire Series by George R. R. Martin

Finally, the moment we’ve all been waiting for. And the #1 book/series of all time goes to… A Song of Ice and Fire! I know I know, this series isn’t even done yet (and it honestly might never be), but there is something about the way GRRM writes that I can’t get enough of. I’ve even bought his children’s book, The Ice Dragon, for when my child is born haha. His writing style was something I was very unfamiliar with but grew to love almost immediately. He actually inspired me to begin my own novel in a similar POV fashion as his ASOIAF books. The first five books of this series are all amazing, however, they’re not all the same caliber to me for one specific reason: I watched the show before I read the books. With that being said, the third, fourth, and fifth books are much more intriguing to read, but that in no way takes anything away from the first two!

The Lord of The Rings Series, The Great Gatsby, To Kill A Mockingbird, these are just a few others that had every right to make this list. Reading just has a way of making us lose track of time while we immerse ourselves in the fantasy worlds of these spectacular authors. I hope one day my books can influence someone the way that some of these have influenced my life. When all is said and done, these books just hit on a different level, and they will forever hold a special place in my heart.


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Norse Mythology for the Win

Norse Mythology for the Win

Norse Mythology has always been something that’s interested me. My dad always had movies or shows on with bits and pieces of Nordic flare throughout my childhood. I think the first true taste of the Nordic culture that had me all-in was back in 2007. Pathfinder had just come out and my father and I went to watch it in theaters. Looking back at it now, it’s not that great of a movie (5.4 on IMDB and a 10% Rotten Tomato), but it truly was the first movie that drew me into that Nordic realm. From there, my passion has been fueled by Vikings, The Elder Scrolls: Skyrim, and even vaguely by the loose Nordic aesthetic within Game of Thrones. But the most influential Norse thing throughout my years was actually the PS4 exclusive God of War. This realm will almost always be a part of my life and it has inspired many ideas for my book. So grab your sword and braid your beard because Norse Mythology is here to seduce you!

The Lore & Stories

Ymir the Frost Giant

The intricate stories within Norse Mythology are one of the main things that draw me in. I love how detailed and farfetched these tales of ancient gods, creatures, and peoples are. Not to mention, most of the stories have tons of holes within them, which leaves plenty of room for my imagination to add its own spin. This actually brings us to how some of this lore inspired ideas within my first book, Brightblood. When I began writing, I started with the usual “Hero takes on evil to save his world” idea, and I was drawing a lot of inspiration from Game of Thrones. But when I really sat down and wondered how the character I had developed would look, I was clueless. After roughly an hour of pondering, I knew I was going to go Norse, and that theme quickly spread throughout my chapters.

Then I really started doing research on Norse Mythology. I stumbled across the tale of Ymir the frost giant and the general basis for my world was born. A dying good whose body turns into a planet, how could I not use that! From there I went down an even deeper rabbit hole into the lore of Ymir. His story has so many areas for me to delve into to make my own. Like how he was created or what actually led to his demise (potential spinoff, watch out!). This led to a shoot-off down the path of Norse Gods, which funneled into a slip and slide of Nordic mythological creatures, which ended in the general study of more lands, peoples, and cultures. Granted, my entire book is not solely based on this culture. Buttttt it is the essential driving force behind its birth.

The Language & Symbols

Nordic Runes

Some of the cooler, yet more challenging pieces of Norse Mythology are the language and symbols. This is where a lot of my research has been lately as I’ve started developing artwork for the story. Obviously, with such a heavy Nordic flare in the book, I wanted to accurately portray ancient runes and language everywhere. Yet, as a native English speaker, it is very challenging attempting to figure out such an old, intriguing language. Even with the help of the all mighty google machine I still struggle! However, over the last few weeks, I’ve been tackling a good amount of translations and have also come to the conclusion that this is another area that is open to tons of interpretation.

Take Odin’s Illusion Rune for example. If you do a quick google search, you cannot really find any definitive explanation for what this rune means. Many say it’s related to basic trickery and deception among the Nordic people. Many believe it could simply tie into Odin’s powerful godly magic. And some even think it’s a made-up rune that a random person who loved Norse Mythology created. That rune has just slowly been making its way across the internet for years, but I personally couldn’t care less. So even if it is a made-up rune that means absolutely nothing, I’ve taken this idea and branched it out onto its own unique path that I believe fits perfectly with my story.

The Look & Aesthetic of its People

Vikings Ragnar Lothbrook

Finally, what may be my favorite thing about the Nordic Culture, their aesthetic. There’s just something about long, unkempt, dreaded hair and bald guys with intense, waste-long beards, am I right? Tattoos covering the body of a warrior who hasn’t lost a battle in years. These are the things that really get me amped up! The fur-lining on everything is just so pleasing too. And don’t even get me started on the animal head cloaks our Nordic heroes wear so often! There is something extremely menacing about a character who puts on one of these cloaks. The ferocity one exudes once put on is just unmatchable. This whole culture’s aesthetic is just spot on at all times and it truly makes me wish I experienced that day and age.


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Book Writing Tips from A Fantasy Writer

Book Writing Tips from A Fantasy Writer

As a writer, there are certain things you must will yourself to do very often. There are countless tricks to avoiding writers block, staying productive, and to even keep your creative juices flowing throughout a period of writing. Some work, others do not, but I’d be remiss if I didn’t share the book writing tips that have worked for me over the past year.

#1 – Write Every Day, No Matter What

This one is simple, never stop writing. You wont always be able to sit down and pump out pages for your book, blog, etc., but you can always write something and that will keep your brain activity in the place it needs to be. On days I can’t think of detail for my book, I will write side stories, songs, prophecies, you name it. Anything that could potentially be used later on, even if only a 1% chance, is better than not writing anything at all!

#2 – If You’re on a Roll, Don’t Stop

I’ve made this mistake a few times now and it may be the worst feeling in the world once you realize what you did. You’ll be 10 pages deep after an hour of work, everything is just pouring out of you, and someone calls your phone. Rather than ignoring it since you’re in the zone, you pick it up and wander away form your screen fro 10-15 minutes. When you finally sit back down, you’ve lost your train of though and any ideas that you had. So now, rather than having that continuous flow you’re trying to remember what you wanted to write about instead. I’m not saying you won’t be able to get back into the flow at all, but nine times out of ten it will actually be the case. So don’t answer that call, don’t take a quick Netflix break, and don’t peel your eyes away from whatever device you’re writing on!

#3 – If You Have Writers Block, Take a Break

Now this is a separate issue from #2. This is for those of us who have ran through the “in the zone” phase and now are drawing more blanks than Old Greg’s Bailey’s watercolor. Once this happens, then its acceptable to take a break. However, don’t go off and do something random and pointless. Try and do something that will get your brain cylinders firing again or something that can inspire you to get back into the zone. Avoid pointless television or movies and step away from your computer if that’s what you’re using to write. Don’t aimlessly scroll through social media either as that is just a distraction that will push you into a void of random nonsense funny cat videos.

#4 – Problems with Your Plan? Stop Planning Then

Another thing I learned very quickly was that planning is not always necessary. This was hard for me to grasp too because I am a massive planner. You should see my outlook calendar at work, hours detailed at levels that shouldn’t be detailed, reminders to run daily reports, notes about writing. It goes on and on too. I’m just a meticulous, detail-oriented, planner who needed to learn that you cannot plan everything when it comes to writing (or at least most of the time you can’t). I started my book with the first chapter to see if I could actually vomit enough info from my brain to complete a chapter. After I succeeded, I began writing descriptions for each and every chapter and how I wanted it the book to go. By chapter three, my brain had already taken me on a different path and 99% of what I planned had to be tossed out the window. So keep that in mind when you’re struggling with planning early on in your creative process.

#5 – Always be on the Lookout for New Material

This kind of goes without saying, but you always, always, always need to keep your eye out for useful material. And with that, always have something on your person, like a phone or a pocket sized notepad, to take notes on for when these situations arise. Then, once these ideas sprout little trees in your brain, you can go research to grow those sproutlings into full grown idea trees!

Writing isn’t easy by any means, but by learning how to manipulate your brains weakest moments you can make it easier. If you follow my book writing tips and mix in a few of your own as you learn the ropes, I can bet you that you’ll hit the ground running much easier than you might think.


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A Letter to My Child

A Letter to My Child

I will never forget the day I found out I was becoming a father. Your mom and I sat on our bed waiting for the test to finish, and I couldn’t help but feel nervous. Those two minutes dragged on for what felt like ten, and as I walked back in to grab the test, my heart began to race. I brought it back over to to look at with your mother, and after a few more seconds I finally flipped the test over to reveal the plus sign that meant you were on your way.

I immediately began crying, but not because I was upset. It was a mixture of relief in knowing why your mom had been getting sick so much and pure joy. In fact, I don’t think there had been a single moment in my life where I had ever felt that much happiness. I was going to be dad! Nothing else seemed to matter anymore, and I knew that I would be blessed with one of the greatest things any man could ever hope to be blessed with.

Fast forward another eight weeks, and guess what? I could not have been more wrong. As each day passes and I await your birth, my love for you grows exponentially. Every time your mom tells me how big you are I tear up a little. You’re currently the size of a credit card, which blows my mind since you were just a little Reese’s cup not too long ago. It’s astonishing to think that you are only 14 weeks old right now, probably in your mother’s belly sucking on your thumb with your legs crossed (just how you had them the first time we ever saw you). I can already picture how in just a few years you will be out in this world, walking around making your mother and I laugh with all of the corny dad jokes I’ve told you.

In just six short months you will be here with us, in our arms, and I cannot wait to meet you. Your dog-sister is excited too, and she will give you all the loves once you’ve arrived. You will have the best family in the entire world, in each of the realms, and all of the galaxies surrounding you. You will be loved so much baby P. I’m already beyond ecstatic to call myself your Father, and I know you will be the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Love you.

Kick Start Your Writing Career

Kick Start Your Writing Career

The thought of trying to find a remote writing job can sometimes be frightening. But, as someone who has over cane these same fears, I’ve decided to put together a list of some of the things I’ve done that helped me land my first gig. A lot of times the most important piece of writing, blogging, or creating content is just sitting down and dedicating time to actually get it done. So don’t be afraid, and with the help of this guide you should be well on your way to starting that illustrious writing career you’ve always wanted. 

Create an UpWork Account

UpWork has probably been my favorite freelance site since I began looking for writing work just four months ago. It is the most user friendly and uses a bidding system for freelancers to land jobs. UpWork does have a limited amount of applies per month, but I personally think that is even better. It really makes you research and find appropriate jobs rather than just willy-nilly applying for everything freelance job. This site also breaks down potential jobs by level: entry, intermediate, and expert levels. Along with that, there are also countless other filters you can apply to search for your ideal first freelance job. 

Another reason UpWork is my favorite site is because it was where I got my first break. There was a smaller company in need of some motivational blog posts that I was lucky enough to get. Granted, I only got to write a handful of posts for them but two of those posts made their way to Medium. This was huge for me, especially as a new writer. For any of you who have already begun your hunt for jobs, I’m sure you’ve noticed that many places require examples of your published work. This is somewhat of a circular reference if you will, since in order to find work you need prior work but you can’t have “prior work” without having prior work (lol). So thankfully these two posts quickly allowed me to move out of that initial search and actually land some work to build more of my resume.

Network, Network, Network

This one is crucial, and maybe even the most crucial for any aspiring bloggers/content creators. This one also came for me with my first few posts, as the smaller motivational site was a great way to get my name out there. This led to other smaller pages reaching out, giving feedback, and asking for assistance on projects. And of course, all of this is very useful for your resume. There’s also the aspect of asking friends to help grow your brand. This can help you reach other networks that you typically may not have reached. So reach out to as many friends, family, and smaller companies as possible to promote your brand while helping others grow theirs. 

Write As Often As Possible

This one may seem obvious, but many don’t realize how much actually goes into writing. You will not always be able to sit down and finish a piece that you start. This post here actually took me multiple times to finish just because I wanted to be sure I had every possible drop of helpful information available for you all. But that’s why constantly writing is so important. I have around fifty unfinished pieces currently stashed within my google docs. And many more ideas and blank pages that still need to be written. Plus, all of this is excluding my book which probably has another 50 pages of notes on top of the 70 I’ve already written. The constant writing only makes you a better as well, which will ultimately help your job hunt reach fruition.

Start A Blog

This may not help all people, but I found it so useful to start my own blog. One thing I would recommend is to avoid labeling your blog right away. I was unsure if I wanted a sports blog, a travel blog, a cooking blog, etc etc. Over the last four months though I’ve decided I don’t want to limit myself to only one thing, which is also how writing in general should be, because I thoroughly enjoy writing about so many different topics. But, by starting a blog you’re slowly growing your brand and gaining more opportunities to land jobs that will get you your published work examples.

My blog was actually one of the things I submitted to the first real writing job I landed a few weeks back. And even though I was applying for a sports writing position, the employer still got to see my style of writing and decided I would be a great fit to the organization. There are countless sites you can use to start a blog too. My personal favorite is WordPress because it has both the entire website aspect of a blog and its own local WordPress community that allows you to have others immediately see your work. This is great for brand growth and for receiving guest post opportunities as well, so don’t be afraid to blog for awhile before you begin the search for freelance work. 

Apply for Everything Entry Level

This falls outside of the UpWork category and more into actual google searching for jobs. Before I found a writing job, I took an hour two three nights a week and applied for just about every entry level remote writing job I could find online. I heard back from a few, and even picked up a small part-time movie review job at one point. But in doing this I also was constantly tweaking and upgrading my resume as I noticed more and more things that companies looked for in their entry level employees. And don’t be afraid to apply for things that you may not be fully qualified either. I’m not saying go apply for a “Experienced Content Manager” position, but anything that can be within reach should be applied for. Even if you get an interview and the company ends up pursuing a different candidate, that is all experience you can learn and grow from!

There are thousands upon thousands of opportunities out there for all of you who are starting to look for jobs that start this new chapter of your life, and I genuinely hope this post sheds some light on things for you! As somewhat of a fairly new writer still myself, I’d love to help in any way I can. If you have ideas for guest posts, reach out. If you have any questions on what I covered, email me. I know I wouldn’t have gotten to where I am today without the people who helped me, so I am more than willing to return the favor to any of you out there who may need it. 

Thanks for reading my article on Kick Starting Your Writing Career! As always, please leave some feedback and give my page a follow so you get to experience all of my content. I’d love to get some feedback and hear from all of you wonderful readers, so be sure to rate/comment often 🙂

Kick Starting Your Writing Career

Kick Starting Your Writing Career

The thought of trying to find a remote writing job can sometimes be frightening. But, as someone who has over cane these same fears, I’ve decided to put together a list of some of the things I’ve done that helped me land my first gig. A lot of times the most important piece of writing, blogging, or creating content is just sitting down and dedicating time to actually get it done. So don’t be afraid, and with the help of this guide you should be well on your way to starting that illustrious writing career you’ve always wanted. 

Create an Upwork Account

Upwork has probably been my favorite freelance site since I began looking for writing work just four months ago. It is the most user friendly and uses a bidding system for freelancers to land jobs. It does have a limited amount of applies per month, but I personally think that is even better. It really makes you research and find appropriate jobs rather than just willy-nilly applying for everything freelance job. This site also breaks down potential jobs by level: entry, intermediate, and expert levels. Along with that, there are also countless other filters you can apply to search for your ideal first freelance job. 

Another reason Upwork is my favorite site is because it was where I got my first break. There was a smaller company in need of some motivational blog posts that I was lucky enough to get. Granted, I only got to write a handful of posts for them but two of those posts made their way to Medium. This was huge for me, especially as a new writer. For any of you who have already begun your hunt for jobs, I’m sure you’ve noticed that many places require examples of your published work. This is somewhat of a circular reference if you will, since in order to find work you need prior work but you can’t have “prior work” without having prior work (lol). So thankfully these two posts quickly allowed me to move out of that initial search and actually land some work to build more of my resume.

Network, Network, Network

This one is crucial, and maybe even the most crucial for any aspiring bloggers/content creators. This one also came for me with my first few posts, as the smaller motivational site was a great way to get my name out there. This led to other smaller pages reaching out, giving feedback, and asking for assistance on projects. And of course, all of this is very useful for your resume. There’s also the aspect of asking friends to help grow your brand. This can help you reach other networks that you typically may not have reached. So reach out to as many friends, family, and smaller companies as possible to promote your brand while helping others grow theirs. 

Write As Often As Possible

This one may seem obvious, but many don’t realize how much actually goes into writing. You will not always be able to sit down and finish a piece that you start. This post here actually took me multiple times to finish just because I wanted to be sure I had every possible drop of helpful information available for you all. But that’s why constantly writing is so important. I have around fifty unfinished pieces currently stashed within my google docs. And many more ideas and blank pages that still need to be written. Plus, all of this is excluding my book which probably has another 50 pages of notes on top of the 70 I’ve already written. The constant writing only makes you a better as well, which will ultimately help your job hunt reach fruition.

Start A Blog

This may not help all people, but I found it so useful to start my own blog. One thing I would recommend is to avoid labeling your blog right away. I was unsure if I wanted a sports blog, a travel blog, a cooking blog, etc etc. Over the last four months though I’ve decided I don’t want to limit myself to only one thing, which is also how writing in general should be, because I thoroughly enjoy writing about so many different topics. But, by starting a blog you’re slowly growing your brand and gaining more opportunities to land jobs that will get you your published work examples.

My blog was actually one of the things I submitted to the first real writing job I landed a few weeks back. And even though I was applying for a sports writing position, the employer still got to see my style of writing and decided I would be a great fit to the organization. There are countless sites you can use to start a blog too. My personal favorite is WordPress because it has both the entire website aspect of a blog and its own local WordPress community that allows you to have others immediately see your work. This is great for brand growth and for receiving guest post opportunities as well, so don’t be afraid to blog for awhile before you begin the search for freelance work. 

Apply for Everything Entry Level

This falls outside of the Upwork category and more into actual google searching for jobs. Before I found a writing job, I took an hour two three nights a week and applied for just about every entry level remote writing job I could find online. I heard back from a few, and even picked up a small part-time movie review job at one point. But in doing this I also was constantly tweaking and upgrading my resume as I noticed more and more things that companies looked for in their entry level employees. And don’t be afraid to apply for things that you may not be fully qualified either. I’m not saying go apply for a “Experienced Content Manager” position, but anything that can be within reach should be applied for. Even if you get an interview and the company ends up pursuing a different candidate, that is all experience you can learn and grow from!

There are thousands upon thousands of opportunities out there for all of you who are starting to look for jobs that start this new chapter of your life, and I genuinely hope this post sheds some light on things for you! As somewhat of a fairly new writer still myself, I’d love to help in any way I can. If you have ideas for guest posts, reach out. If you have any questions on what I covered, email me. I know I wouldn’t have gotten to where I am today without the people who helped me, so I am more than willing to return the favor to any of you out there who may need it. 

Thanks for reading my article on Kick Starting Your Writing Career! As always, please leave some feedback and give my page a follow so you get to experience all of my content. I’d love to get some feedback and hear from all of you wonderful readers, so be sure to rate/comment often 🙂

My Weekly Review (#13) – UpWork

My Weekly Review (#13) – UpWork

For this week’s recommendation I wanted to talk a little about UpWork. It is a freelance job site that allows you to spend credits for a wide array of jobs. You can find anything from building Excel tables to writing novels, and it is incredibly simple to use. I’m not sure where my writing career would be if I hadn’t stumbled across this wonderful site and I can’t wait to hear how much it helps everyone else!

This site was what actually got my writing career under way almost five months ago. It all started with one or two small copy writing jobs before someone was kind enough to take a chance on me with a few small articles. Both of those articles were published to Medium (#1 and #2) and I could not have been more proud of myself. After a month or so working for that first company, I picked up a second gig writing summaries of Netflix shows. That has quickly evolved into detailed listicle writing and in depth breakdowns of some of my favorite video games too.

From there came my first real writing “job” however. With a fully functioning blog site, some published articles, and a fresh resume I was able to land a sports writing job. Basically a dream come true if you ask me! So with all of that being said, for any of you who are new to writing (or even if you just aren’t sure how to land that first job), be sure to go check out UpWork.

My Weekly Recommendation (#13)

My Weekly Recommendation (#13) – Upwork

For this week’s recommendation I wanted to talk a little about Upwork. It is a freelance job site that allows you to spend credits for a wide array of jobs. You can find anything from building Excel tables to writing novels, and it is incredibly simple to use. I’m not sure where my writing career would be if I hadn’t stumbled across this wonderful site and I can’t wait to hear how much it helps everyone else!

This site was what actually got my writing career under way almost five months ago. It all started with one or two small copy writing jobs before someone was kind enough to take a chance on me with a few small articles. Both of those articles were published to Medium (#1 and #2) and I could not have been more proud of myself. After a month or so working for that first company, I picked up a second gig writing summaries of Netflix shows. That has quickly evolved into detailed listicle writing and in depth breakdowns of some of my favorite video games too. 

From there came my first real writing “job” however. With a fully functioning blog site, some published articles, and a fresh resume I was able to land a sports writing job. Basically a dream come true if you ask me! So with all of that being said, for any of you who are new to writing (or even if you just aren’t sure how to land that first job), be sure to go check out Upwork.